From the monthly archives:

April 2009

Mediate.com launches interview series with mediation bloggersOver the years the terrific folks at Mediate.com – the premier online source for the latest in news and ideas related to dispute resolution and negotiation -  have shown tremendous support for ADR bloggers. They were kind enough to give us a home on their site with a Featured Blogs page that posts the best each week in mediation blogging, giving bloggers increased visibility by allowing us to stand on their shoulders.

Now they have launched a Featured Blogger Interview series, posing questions to bloggers and inviting them to do some thinking out loud.

I was deeply honored that Mediate.com invited me to do the first interview. You can read it here. (While you’re there, think about signing up for Mediate.com’s free weekly newsletter – scroll down to the sign-up widget in the site’s left sidebar.)

Thank you, Mediate.com – your ongoing support means a great deal. It’s an honor to be a part of the global community you’ve created online – you embody the principles of collegiality and connectedness that mediation itself is premised upon. Cheers!

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Time to consider client needs in mediation

At the recent ABA Section on Dispute Resolution spring meeting, I attended one program whose title promised an answer to the fascinating question “What Do Litigators Want?” when it comes to mediator practices.

All well and good, but the question I was most interested in was very different: “What do your clients want? ”

Alas, I never got a straight answer, although the guy sitting behind me whispered his thanks in my ear and said, “I’m glad you asked that. I’m a client myself, and I can tell you right now, my lawyers don’t have a clue what I want.”

So what can we – attorneys and mediators alike – do to help clients choose and participate fully and meaningfully in the right process for them and their dispute? Here’s my modest proposal, with a tip of the hat to Joseph P. McMahon, Leonard Riskin, and Nancy Welsh:

  • Start with the premise that informed consent is vital for all participants – for lawyers, for clients, and for mediators. And let us all remember to whom the dispute and ultimate resolution belong – not the lawyers, not the mediator, but the client (remember them, anybody?).
  • Educate lawyers and other likely consumers of ADR services fully about the various philosophies of mediation practice, providing them with accurate information about the benefits and drawbacks of each.
  • Insist that mediators themselves be well informed about the varieties of practice in their own field so that they can in turn provide accurate information to prospective clients – and to journalists who come calling for interviews.
  • Develop better systems for intake, to include an assessment of the conflict that can guide the design of a process best suited for the parties and the issues and that identifies the parties necessary for resolution before scheduling the mediation.
  • Mediators can emphasize the importance of preparation to lawyers and their clients; lawyers can do their part to encourage their client’s knowledgeable, fully informed participation.
  • Allow clients full say in shaping the process and defining the issues to be sure that mediation addresses all the concerns relevant to them and to the resolution of their dispute, not merely the legal ones.

That would at least be a start. If you have other ideas, by all means, weigh in. I’m all ears.

(With apologies to the gang at everybody’s favorite client-centered blog, What About Clients?)

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the gorilla at the mediation tableLast week’s annual spring meeting of the ABA Section on Dispute Resolution was endowed with an optimistic title: “ADR: Building Bridges to a Better Society”. Despite the noble sentiment it carried, something else – unwelcome and ignored – was present.

It was there in the plenary meetings and in the sessions I sat in on. No one explicitly named it, but plainly there it sat: the dividing line that separates one practitioner from the other. It was there when the famous scholar declared that cases involving legal issues are best mediated by attorneys only. It was there in one of the workshops when a facilitative mediator declared an evaluative intervention to be “wrong” and “bad mediation”.  It was there when a law professor dismissed lawyers – the original dispute resolvers – as flunkies and functionaries of a heartless judicial system. It’s the line that runs straight between attorneys who mediate and mediators who don’t practice law. It’s the line that separates facilitative mediators from mediators who evaluate. It’s the line between theory and praxis. We ADR professionals pay lip service to the values of community and collaborative effort; but the reality is otherwise for those willing to look more closely.

Other lines divide us, too, along the borders of gender and race. Women and people of color remain excluded from premier ADR panels. Women, who face gender-specific hurdles when it comes to negotiation anyway, confront particular disadvantages when it comes to the selection of mediators who assist at negotiations. Meanwhile, in the recent issue of the ABA Dispute Resolution magazine, dedicated to diversity, and which arrived the day before I departed for the spring meeting in New York, the concluding page of one article (a critical look at the lack of diversity in ADR’s upper echelons) faced an advertisement for a prestigious training organization with head shots of trainers who were white and male, with only a single woman represented among them. Yet still at the conference I heard an honored guest speaker look back on a moment in history when women faced barriers in ADR as if that time belonged solely to a long-ago past and not to the present.

It seems to me that unless we build and cross bridges within our own community, we can hardly expect to bridge gulfs outside it.

So, in the words of Joan Rivers, and mediators everywhere:

Can we talk?

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connecting to ADRSurmounted by an image of a righteous Old Testament god, the frieze above the entrance to the GE Building in New York City bears the words, “Wisdom and Knowledge shall be the stability of thy times“, chiseled into stone. Along with collegiality and connection, these were no doubt the objectives of those who attended last week’s 11th annual spring meeting of the American Bar Association’s Section on Dispute Resolution.

So how did it go?

Meeting long-distance friends and fellow bloggers – some of them for the very first time – was a welcome pleasure.  Waiting for ADR bloggers on the morning of the first day of the program was the personable Jim Melamed, co-founder of Mediate.com, the ADR world’s best known news and information resource. Bearing a tantalizing box of Krispy Kreme donuts was Jeff Thompson, who blogs at Enjoy Mediation and represents the face of the new generation of conflict resolution professionals. Jeff, a NYC police officer working in the Community Affairs Bureau and a Buddhist who has met the Dalai Lama twice, offered us a warm welcome to the city he lives and works in. Keep your eye on him, folks – he is one of tomorrow’s leaders. It’s people like Jeff who will be bringing change and new direction to the practice of mediation.

I got to reconnect with Wellington barrister and commercial mediator Geoff Sharp of Mediator Blah Blah, who was here in the Boston area for a conference about two or so years ago. Warm, wise, and even funnier in person than he is on his blog, Geoff is someone I count myself fortunate to call friend. (Good to see you, Geoff.) And meeting Settle It Now author Vickie Pynchon in person for the first time – after numerous emails, phone calls, and comments back and forth on each other’s blogs – was extraordinary. Perhaps more than anyone I know, she embodies the spirit of the best of the blogosphere – its mutuality, its neighborliness, its collegiality, its open and courageous engagement with ideas, its generosity.  As she writes, reflects and connects with her vast web of online social contacts, so, too, does she in person. Vickie is also the founder of the Professional Women’s Network of Southern California, open to those outside that geographic area.

Other bloggers I met included ADR pioneer Jeff Krivis, and Phyllis Pollack, a high-energy, hard-working Los Angeles attorney and mediator who writes the blog PGP Mediation, which discusses the dynamics at work at the mediation table. In addition to running a busy practice and publishing a blog, Phyllis also finds time to serve as president-elect of the Southern California Mediation Association.

Although I came for the programs, I primarily showed up for the schmoozing.  Besides meeting bloggers, the spring meeting was an extraordinary opportunity to get to know ADR professionals and scholars from all over the globe – to have impromptu discussions and conversations in meeting rooms, hallways, elevators, and over restaurant tables. It’s a reminder that no matter how wonderful social media may be, there is simply no substitute for face-to-face interaction in real time, right in the moment.

Those were among the positives – those things that made attending the event worthwhile. There were also glitches and disappointments, of which I will mention one now. I promised readers that I would be live blogging and Twittering from the event. I am glad that I thought to include the caveat that I would do so in the absence of technical difficulties. As it turned out, reliable wireless internet access was a big problem.  The hotel offered for-fee ethernet access in guest rooms (although those of us who were bunking with spouses or colleagues were charged for access for each laptop plugging in, rather than a single fee for the room) and free wifi in the lobby with only very limited and unreliable wifi in the conference meeting areas. This left disappointed bloggers like me who were planning on blogging live from plenaries and break-out sessions to bring the conversation to our readers unable to attend the event. I can only hope that organizers for next year’s conference will plan better for Web 2.0. This was a missed opportunity to make the most of the internet and bring the ABA Section on Dispute Resolution fully into the 21st century.

I’m already looking ahead to next year…

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Recently I criticized a call by Stephen Erickson of the Association for Conflict Resolution to establish a certification system for mediators.  (Lively discussion ensued, and people have continued to weigh in, so please feel free to contribute.)

According to Erickson, facilitative mediation is “good” and evaluative mediation, by inference, is bad, since evaluative mediation undermines self-determination, a core principle of mediation practice.

I responded by insisting that we owe it to our profession to bring greater nuance to our debate about mediation practice and credentialing, and not privilege one style of practice over another, reducing the debate to little more than facilitative-good/evaluative-bad.

But my main point was that we mediators need to do a much better job educating the public about what we do and how we practice so that parties can make informed decisions about choosing the approach – facilitative, transformative, evaluative, narrative, understanding-based, or a hybrid of approaches  — that best fits their dispute.

However, just because we strive to be inclusive in discussing these issues does not mean that we check our critical faculties at the door.  Evaluative mediation certainly has its uses, but it does have its shortcomings, too, as Len Riskin and Nancy Welsh described recently in their article, “Is that All There is? The ‘Problem’ in Court-Oriented Mediation“, since that approach allows the preferences of lawyers and insurance adjusters to dominate and  narrows discussion to legal and economic interests, while disregarding a whole range of other concerns — emotional, interpersonal, behavioral, community — that are no less integral.

Similarly, in “Moving Mediation Back Toward its Historic Roots – Suggested Changes” (in PDF), Joseph P. McMahon, Jr., criticizes the law-centered, “low functioning” approach to mediation that increasingly the legal community has come to accept, characterized by separation of parties with no opportunity for direct dialogue, a focus on monetizing the dispute, while legal issues take precedence over the parties’ own narratives and personal experience as the mediator-expert directs the parties toward settlement. McMahon advocates revolution, overthrowing one model in favor of another.  McMahon proposes a solution that restores face-to-face dialogue to its rightful place and returns power to the parties by engaging them in designing a process and an outcome that will best serve their needs.

Unfortunately, public perception remains otherwise.  In the popular imagination, the all-powerful mediator shuttles back and forth between separate rooms, controlling the flow of information between parties, and withholding food and drink (and maybe even bathroom breaks) while cajoling or pressuring the parties into accepting a deal.  This became amply clear to me over the weekend when Boston Globe Magazine profiled a local mediator.  Here’s the picture of mediation the Globe painted for its readers:

Here’s how mediation works: In a civil dispute, going to trial is always risky. Verdicts can either force defendants to pay astronomical amounts or leave plaintiffs without a penny. And so people often decide they’d rather settle — if they can agree on a price. The parties then choose a mediator — both sides must agree on the person — and the process begins, behind closed doors, with both sides stating their cases and demands. Then the mediator separates the two sides into different rooms and begins shuttling back and forth between them. If mediation fails, the parties can agree on another mediator, or the case goes to trial….In mediations, lawyers need someone with a sharp legal mind who’s not afraid to nudge, push, and just plain tell people when they’re wrong…

It’s all there – the shuttle diplomacy behind closed doors, the focus on price, and a process conducted within the long shadow of the courthouse as lawyers wheel and deal. Go read it for yourself. Plainly this tough-headed mediator has earned the title “closer”, brokering deals and producing settlements of the economic and legal issues (if not, perhaps, the less tangible ones). All well and good if that’s what lawyers and their clients truly want – after knowing all the options.  But how can we be sure that the public appreciates the difference, when even journalists – trained, professional observers – miss it?

And so I must also ask – can we really call this “mediation”?

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Meet ADR bloggers at ABA Section on Dispute Resolution Annual Spring Conference

April 13, 2009 Events for Mediators

The 11th Annual Spring Conference of the American Bar Association Section on Dispute Resolution gets underway this Thursday, April 16, in New York City.
ADR professionals and scholars from throughout the US and elsewhere around the globe will gather to explore this year’s theme, “ADR: Building Bridges to a Better Society“.
Several ADR bloggers will be there, [...]

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10 ways to botch a mediation

April 13, 2009 Blogs and Bloggers

One of the latest arrivals on the mediation blogging scene is The Strategic Mediator, published by Florida-based ADR firm Upchurch Watson White & Max.
A recent post that caught my eye was this one: “Top 10 Ways to Botch a Mediation“, a comprehensive list of surefire ways to sink any assisted negotiation that includes one surprise [...]

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Another round-up of articles for negotiators, ADR professionals

April 6, 2009 Mediation Link Round Up

Since February I’ve been microblogging at Twitter, a social media tool ( and recently sharing my experiences and lessons learned).
As I’ve come to appreciate, Twitter can be a great way to keep your ear to the ground and gain access to the latest news and ideas that the world is discussing.
As I’ve done in the [...]

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Getting out of neutral: a fresh look at mediator impartiality

April 6, 2009 Mediation

Efforts here in Massachusetts to enact the Uniform Mediation Act have run aground. Deadlocked over one vexing question – how to define a mediator  – the MassUMA Working Group (as those of us involved most directly in those efforts  call ourselves) is poised to take some time off to regroup and rethink.
An active member of [...]

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Interviews with ADR giants: Mediate.com opens video archive for month of April

April 2, 2009 Cool Stuff on the Web

Mediate.com, the world’s premier source for news, information, and articles about mediation, has opened its video archive to the public during the month of April.
Available at no cost are over 100 fully searchable video interviews with leaders in the field of dispute resolution – notable names like Roger Fisher, Carrie Menkel-Meadow, Len Riskin, Margaret Shaw, [...]

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