Monthly Archives: January 2009

Remembering wartime: photos of present-day city evoke tragic past

Remembering the wartime deadTo commemorate the 65th anniversary of the end of the Siege of Leningrad, photographer Sergei Larenkov overlays photos of present-day St. Petersburg with ghostly images of Leningrad during the blockade.

In these grim images, the dead trudge silently along city streets, while modern-day passersby rush along, blind to their presence. Eerie and deeply moving, these photos speak of the immediacy of the past, the suffering through war of the nameless dead.

For other posts discussing war and large-scale conflict, please see

Hat tip Boing Boing.

The Complete Lawyer: a new look, a new issue

The Complete LawyerThe latest edition of The Complete Lawyer, a web-based magazine focusing on quality of life and career satisfaction for attorneys but with relevance for dispute resolution professionals as well, is now available. This month’s issue asks, “What Do Savvy Lawyers Do In An Uncertain Economy?”.

The Complete Lawyer features a regular ADR column, which explores ADR from the perspective of four attorneys who mediate – me and three colleagues, Stephanie West Allen of Idealawg and Brains on Purpose, Gini Nelson of Engaging Conflicts, and Victoria Pynchon of Settle It Now Negotiation Blog .  The four of us alternate as writers.

This month’s column, written by Nelson and Pynchon, reminds us that “Savvy Lawyers Value Their Human Capital“.

The Complete Lawyer has a fresh new look as well, and an RSS feed to go along with it, making it easier for devoted readers to follow it.  Congratulations to TCL’s innovator-in-chief, Don Hutcheson, for making an already superb online magazine even better.

Girl Scouts get to yes with lessons in negotiating

teaching girls to negotiateRecognizing how important the acquisition of negotiation skills is for women for educational and career advancement, Carnegie Mellon University’s Program for Research and Outreach on Gender Equity in Society (PROGRESS) has developed a negotiation badge to be awarded to Girl Scouts in fourth through sixth grade who have participated in a curriculum that teaches them negotiation and problem-solving skills.

This program not only teaches girls how to ask for what they need and negotiate win-win agreements, it also encourages them to pass along what they have learned to others:

Now that you have learned about negotiation, share your knowledge with a friend, sibling, or relative. Teach them the steps to negotiation, and the importance of approach, preparation, and practice.

You can download the activity book (in PDF) from the PROGRESS web site.

You go, girls.

A round-up of must-read articles for professional mediators

round-up of mediation linksThe following articles linked to below make essential reading for the professional mediator, addressing as they do three important topics in mediation practice — reaching settlement, making decisions, and what to do with those notes.

Reaching settlement.

Giving us a ring-side seat for the final hours of a tough negotiation, Victoria Pynchon, an experienced mediator of complex commercial disputes, considers the devil in the details with a four-part series that offers a rare glimpse inside a mediator’s mind as she wrestles with demons:

Decision-making.

Perhaps one of the most important services that mediators provide is to aid clients in reaching decisions.  Attorney John DeGroote, who shares Settlement Perspectives and negotiation advice based on eight years as the Chief Litigation Counsel of a global company, makes a strong case for using decision trees to improve settlement decisions in a two-part series.  “Decision Tree Analysis in Litigation: The Basics” introduces readers to decision trees –“tree-shaped models of [a] decision to be made and the uncertainties it encompasses,” according to Suffolk University Law Professor Dwight Golann in Mediating Legal Disputes — and links to The Arboretum, a free online tool provided by mediator Daniel M. Klein for building decision trees.  In “Why Should You Try a Decision Tree in Your Next Dispute?“, John convinces the naysayers, offering persuasive reasons why decision trees make smart business sense.

Mediator’s notes — destroy or keep?

One of the ongoing debates within the mediation community concerns what to do with notes — keep them or destroy them?

Mediators who destroy their notes typically do so because it:

  • Protects the confidentiality of mediation communications
  • Eliminates the burden on the mediator and the mediator’s resources to store and secure notes
  • Reduces the risk that the parties will subpoena the mediator later if negotiations fail, particularly if the mediator informs the parties in the agreement to mediate that he or she routinely destroys notes as a matter of practice

Those who keep their notes (and I count myself in this group) do so because:

  • Due to the nature of the mediator’s practice, parties may return for follow-up sessions after a period of time, and notes will refresh the mediator’s recollection of the case
  • Notes, with suitable precautions taken to conceal the identity of the parties, can be used to create case studies for purposes of mediation and negotiation training
  • Destroying notes could prejudice a mediator’s professional liability insurer defending a malpractice action against the mediator, potentially voiding the mediator’s insurance coverage

Mediator Geoff Sharp directs his readers to an article by Australian mediator Michael Creelman, who advocates the retention of notes in large part due to the insurance issue in “Mediators’ notes of the mediation – a mediator’s protective device“. Meanwhile, Atlanta-based attorney and mediator Christopher Annunziata offers the view from Georgia, coming down in favor of destroying notes.

Mediation Channel, other ADR blogs make list of top legal blogs

ADR blogs among top law blogsAvvo Blog has pulled together an automatically updating list of the top 300 law blogs, ordered by their traffic ranking on Alexa, a web traffic information site.

Mediation Channel made the cut, along with these outstanding ADR blogs:

Hat tip to my neighbor just up the road, lawyer and blogger Bob Ambrogi, whose high-ranked blog, Robert Ambrogi’s LawSites, also made the list.

Outlandish mediation techniques? Name yours

Outlandish mediation techniques Last week ADR Prof Blog posted a zany request to mediators, asking them to share their most outlandish mediation techniques.

It got me thinking. The most outlandish thing I’ve done during a mediation had to have been this: I was mediating a multi-party dispute involving a bunch of guys who towered enormously over me. Things got heated, and suddenly in unison they erupted from their chairs, shouting angrily at each other.  Operating totally on instinct (and adrenaline), I climbed onto the table, stood up, and yelled at the top of my lungs, “Don’t make me stop this car!” They all cracked up, and in a few minutes they were talking settlement.

Addendum: My buddy Geoff Sharp, a commercial mediator in New Zealand, alerts his readers that ADR Prof Blog’s request attracted the attention of a mediator known only as Brother Mat who, tongue-in-cheek (or at least I hope so), shares an unorthodox tool for reality testing: a sock puppet.

What’s the most outlandish technique you’ve deployed along the road to yes?  Let the nice folks at ADR Prof Blog know.

Online petition asks Obama to promote conflict resolution

Online petition seeks use of conflict resolutionConflict resolution expert and social justice advocate Kenneth Cloke has created an online petition requesting that U.S. President Barack Obama promote the use of conflict resolution both domestically and internationally.

Dispute resolvers, peacemakers, and ADR professionals are encouraged to add their signatures to a growing list of supporters.

This five-point proposal asks that Obama implement the following steps:

  1. Create a cabinet level ombudsman office or department of peace and consensus building to work proactively to prevent and minimize conflicts
  2. Build mediation, consensus building, diversity, and democratic conflict resolution processes into every proposal for change, whether domestic or international
  3. Invite representatives of international institutions, governments, and community organizations to attend a conference to discuss how to improve conflict resolution competencies and encourage collaborative problem solving around the world
  4. Request that the United Nations initiate a global effort to train diplomats and national representatives in conflict resolution, and incorporate in all treaties a clause requiring signatories to mediate and arbitrate disputes.
  5. Initiate a program and a fund to support conflict resolution professionals in serving in trouble spots around the world and help people prevent, resolve and recover from conflict.

January 20, 2009: The better angels of our nature

our better angelsChange has come to the White House.  Among the signs: the new White House blog, which affirms the commitment of the Obama administration to three core principles: communication, transparency, and participation.

Among its first posts was this one, proclaiming a National Day of Renewal and Reconciliation:

We are in the midst of a season of trial. Our Nation is being tested, and our people know great uncertainty. Yet the story of America is one of renewal in the face of adversity, reconciliation in a time of discord, and we know that there is a purpose for everything under heaven.

On this Inauguration Day, we are reminded that we are heirs to over two centuries of American democracy, and that this legacy is not simply a birthright — it is a glorious burden. Now it falls to us to come together as a people to carry it forward once more.

So in the words of President Abraham Lincoln, let us remember that: “The mystic chords of memory, stretching from every battlefield and patriot grave to every living heart and hearthstone all over this broad land, will yet swell the chorus of the Union, when again touched, as surely they will be, by the better angels of our nature.”

It is enough to move even an atheist like me to say, “Amen.”

No soap, radio: confronting our fear of asking questions

No soap, radioThose of you who grew up in the U.S. may be familiar with “no soap, radio“, a prankster’s joke.  When I was a kid, it was the kind of gag that older kids would pull on younger ones. The prankster and her accomplices — a group of sixth graders for example — would approach their mark — a younger sibling in the fourth or fifth grade perhaps — and offer to regale him with the funniest joke ever.

In the version popular in my hometown, the joke went something like this:  “Two elephants sitting in a tub were taking a bath together. One elephant says, ‘Hey, pal, pass the soap.’ The other elephant replies, ‘No soap, radio!’”

On cue, the prankster and her accomplices begin to laugh uproariously.  The younger kid surreptitiously glances at them, not sure why his older sibling and her friends are laughing.  Puzzled and uneasy, but not wanting to appear unworldly (meanwhile wondering anxiously whether ‘radio’ might be some kind of sexual slang), the younger kid begins to laugh, too, hesitantly, then with more conviction.  The prankster and her friends suddenly stop laughing, and maliciously one asks, “Hey, kid, what’s so funny?”  The younger kid stops, sensing too late the undercurrent of cruelty.  The air is charged with it, as a shameful silence hangs.  The older kids explode with laughter again, and in triumph the prankster shouts out the real punchline, “If it’s so funny, then explain it to me!”

Like a home-grown version of the experiments in social conformity conducted by Solomon Asch in the 1950s, it’s a prank that exploits a strong fear and an equally fierce desire: our fear of looking stupid, and our desire to belong.  Unfortunately, when you don’t ask, the joke’s on you.

It takes courage to admit when we don’t know something, and courage as well to ask.  As the proverb says, “The one who asks questions doesn’t lose his way” — or, for that matter, look like an idiot on the playground. It’s a grade school lesson that all of us should heed.

(Photo credit: Emiliano Spada.)

Mediation Train the Trainer Institute held in Boston Feb. 26-27, 2009

Mediation Train the Trainer Institute BostonIf you’re an experienced mediator who wants to master the essentials of effective mediation training, please join me in Boston for the Mediation Works Incorporated Train the Trainer Institute, on Thursday, February 26 and Friday, February 27, 2009.

I’ll be teaming up with mediator, trainer, and ombuds Charles Doran, MWI’s executive director. This program covers:

  • Program Design and Marketing – How to define and meet the needs of participants; staying focused on goals and outcomes; the logistics of putting on a successful training; programmatic and administrative issues; internal and external program promotion; translating experience into basic concepts that trainees can internalize and practice; delegating pre- and post-training responsibilities within the training team; designing and analyzing diagnostic forms.
  • Delivery - Presenting concepts with impact; selecting and using different delivery media; how to be a facilitator, leader, coordinator (all at the same time); setting up the room; facilitating skill-building exercises; fostering group participation and self-reflection; coaching role-plays and providing feedback to trainees; dealing with difficult participants.
  • Evaluation and Follow-up – Designing effective feedback and evaluation methodologies; delivering feedback to participants during and after the program; incorporating lessons learned into future programs; and more.

The highly interactive, hands-on program will be held at the historic Union Club on Boston’s Beacon Hill, at 8 Park Street.

Registration and more information is available at the MWI web site. I hope to see you there.