Monthly Archives: March 2008

The British are coming! New mediation blog invites international conversation

UNIONJACKThanks to the always vigilant Geoff Sharp, I’ve just added a new mediation blog to my World Directory of ADR Blogs project, this one from across the pond.

The Mediation Times is the creation of Amanda Bucklow, a full-time commercial mediator for the past 12 years based in the U.K. Here’s what Amanda has to say about Mediation Times:

Why a blog and not a web site? There are a number of good mediation web sites but web sites don’t have quite the same level of interaction as a blog. I also like the idea of the mediation community making this blog what it can be. It fits the mediation model so much better! A weblog or blog is much more sophisticated and flexible. It offers a much higher level of interaction and it suits my preferred method of communicating: conversation. It is also very simple…

I also wanted to design something that could be international. You will find language translators powered by Google on this site for French, German, Italian, Dutch, Spanish and Greek. I will add more and if people post in those languages you will be able to translate into English using the same tools.

This is a blog that really encourages full participation in the conversation — and I like the idea of Google translators so that language is never a barrier to joining in. Not so different from what we mediators try to do with our clients, I’d say.

I hope you’ll stop by Mediation Times and join me and Geoff in wishing Amanda a warm welcome to the ADR blogosphere.

Support dissent or the terrorists win: thoughts on the fifth anniversary of the Iraq war

Saving dissent[Note to readers: Mediation Channel is not a political blog, so I don't typically use it as a vehicle for expressing my political views. Sometimes though I must when an issue implicates the work I do or when it has affected me or my family directly, as it did when I wrote "When the political gets personal: what the Military Commissions Act of 2006 means to one mediator and her family".

Today marks another one of those times when I must speak up. That shouldn't be surprising, though, to hear from a mediator -- not when our work means empowering people to do precisely that. But by all means give this post a pass if you'd prefer to keep your mediation blog reading and political punditry separate.]

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Last night on the eve of the fifth anniversary of the U.S. invasion of Iraq, I found myself picking up a book my son gave me for Mother’s Day two years ago, Gag Rule: On the Suppression of Dissent and the Stifling of Democracy by Lewis Lapham, an account of the silencing of dissenting voices in American political discourse during the days between the towers falling and the bombing of Baghdad.

Those were dark days for many, particularly those among us who see the value of the hard questions and the give-and-take of dialogue, who know the dangers of the uninformed agreement or the decision made in haste. It was a time when many who supported the war against Iraq accused its critics of a lack of patriotism, or worse, of treason — of hating America, of giving comfort to its enemies, of aiding terrorism.

While five years later dissent has regained some of its former vigor, these old libels still stain our public discourse.

Yet we depend upon the critics and the naysayers of this world to temper our judgments. Both good decisions and democracy alike depend upon candid dialogue, the availability of information, and access to the truth.

And so today, on the fifth anniversary of a war that seems will never end, while I join those who mourn the tragic loss of thousands of lives, both military and civilian, or who struggle to comprehend the economic costs of a war that some have calculated to be $3 trillion, I pause today to recall the first casualty of war. I grieve for dissent.

What was your first time like? (your first mediation, that is)

Discovering mediation that first timeAttorney Nancy Hudgins, who shares the wisdom won from her experience mediating thousands of disputes in her blog Civil Negotiation and Mediation, today describes her first mediation. It’s a story, wonderfully told, about discoveries — how one party discovers empowerment, another closure, and a mediator discovers the quiet satisfaction in helping others help themselves.

It made me wonder how many other first-time stories await their telling.

While Nancy’s story stands in part for the hope mediation restores to parties, my own first mediation resembled more closely Geoff Sharp’s “The Extra Mile“.

I got my start in community mediation, and believe me, there is no tougher initiation into the trenches of conflict. Here you gird yourself for the escalating battle between neighbors over boundary lines and unleashed dogs, or the full-scale war of feuding teens in a public housing project. Fought in deadly earnest, these disputes emit a lethal heat.

My first mediation involved a dispute in which one of the parties was a woman with profound physical disabilities. The medical attendant who was supposed to arrive failed to show up for the mediation. During a break, the woman asked my co-mediator and me for assistance in the bathroom; we helped her empty her urostomy bag.

Although time has blurred the other details of that day, I remember one thing vividly. That experience revealed something no mediation training prepared me for — not the corrosiveness of anger or the frustration of tears — but instead, despite the hardship and indignities that daily life inflicts, the courage that inhabits the human heart.

Fellow mediators, what was your first time like?

Recovering from a big mistake

Fixing mistakesIn my experience, one of the most persistent sources of interpersonal conflict is the inability to own up to and correct mistakes. Our first impulse may be to conceal an error, or to deny it exists. We may try to shift the fault and blame it on the negligence of others. We may be paralyzed by embarrassment, shame or a sense of personal failure. Or, perhaps, we just don’t know what to do.

Dumb Little Man presents a remarkable story of one lawyer‘s workplace error — missing a critical filing deadline, every attorney’s nightmare — and describes the courageous steps she took to make things right in “How to Recover from a (Big) Mistake at Work“. While avoiding mistakes in the first place is important, it’s a mark of character and rare ingenuity to fix one — making her the kind of lawyer I’d want to hire.

Celebrate St. Patrick's Day at Blawg Review #151

Celebrate St. Patrick’s Day at Blawg Review #151Lex Ferenda hosts a special St. Patrick’s Day presentation of Blawg Review, the weekly review of the best in legal blogging.

Lex Ferenda, published by Daithí Mac Síthigh, a graduate researcher in the School of Law in Trinity College Dublin, capably covers cyberlaw — including “Internet governance, intellectual property, and the control of media and information flows across national and regional borders”.

Blawg Review #151 will introduce you to the wit and wisdom of Irish legal bloggers, as well as a delightful assortment of blog posts from elsewhere in the world.

(Photo credit: Sarah Williams.)

We are the world

A friend shared with me a link to this extraordinary slideshow of photos of earth taken by astronaut Sunita Williams. In the images Williams captured you can see the retreat of day as night moves silently across a continent, or the stars shining as cities sleep.

These images cast a spell. View it in full screen to feel the full effect of their magic.

Debating the meaning of the A in ADR

Reconsidering the A in ADROur local Whole Foods Market carries a brand of high-end chocolate bars in assorted flavors which boast a variety of exotic ingredients, including — I am not making this up — smoked applewood bacon. In so many ways, that’s just wrong.

Let me set the record straight. I like chocolate. And I love bacon. In fact, a lot (which doomed my brief flirtation with vegetarianism).

Bacon pairs well with lots of food. Chocolate doesn’t happen to be one of them. See, no matter how good something may be, it’s not a perfect match for everything.

Despite the fact that I’m a professional mediator, it’s also one of my concerns about alternative dispute resolution. Like bacon with chocolate, it’s not always the right choice. But some in my field are convinced otherwise.

While attending an ADR conference a few years ago, I struck up a conversation with a fellow mediator. He chastened me when I used the phrase “alternative dispute resolution”. “No,” he corrected me, plainly insulted, “it’s not just an alternative, it’s appropriate dispute resolution — not like litigation, which is never appropriate, as far as I’m concerned. I want people to think appropriate instead of alternative when they hear ‘ADR’.”

Unfortunately the workshop I was leading was about to start, so I left without a chance to tell him what I thought. That was probably a good thing, since I was about to offer an impolitic response. What arrogance, I thought to myself, how can anyone insist on the absolute appropriateness of private resolution for all disputes? It’s like treating every disease with antibiotics regardless of the cause or the symptoms.

That mediator is not alone in thinking this way. Some mediators, I know, think that “alternative” marks ADR as inferior or third-rate — litigation’s unloved stepchild. Google the phrase “appropriate dispute resolution”, and it’ll return over 20,000 hits. Frequent use has begun to legitimize it. This is no cause for rejoicing — not when you stop to read the legitimate criticisms leveled against ADR and overzealous ADR practitioners, or consider the reminders of the value and role of litigation. It becomes harder and harder to insist that the “A” in ADR should mean “appropriate”.

Over the years I’ve thought often about that conversation. I thought of it when I read Victoria Pynchon’s article, “Paternalism, Self-Determination and the Rule of Law“, which recounted an incident at the recent Mediators Without Borders conference:

[S]omeone suggested from the podium that we should include mediation and arbitration agreements in our own contracts with our own clients.

I raised my hand.

“Why,” I asked, “do you want to restrict our clients’ access to the justice system?” once again demonstrating a fractious lack of diplomacy that makes some people wonder how I could possibly be an effective mediator.

It wasn’t a well-placed question but it is of a type I often find myself more or less compelled to shoe-horn into any conversation that assumes mediation is best for other people.

It’s time at last to reclaim or insist upon “alternative” as the “A” in “ADR”. Among other things, “alternative” means “choice”, “one of several possibilities”. This notion of choice comports with ADR’s history with its roots in legal reform and other movements which sought to increase, not decrease, the choices available on the road to justice. Pioneer Frank Sander, while envisioning the multi-door courthouse with its many entrances leading disputants to the process fitting best their dispute, never intended that the door to litigation be closed. In delivering his 1976 paper, “The Pound Conference: Perspectives on Justice in the Future”, he reminded his audience of the “need to retain the courts as the ultimate agency capable of effectively protecting the rights of the disadvantaged”.

The lack of choice which ADR’s modern offspring have produced runs contrary to the promise of choice that once distinguished ADR. Let’s put the “alternative” back in ADR and let people choose for themselves what’s appropriate — whether to arbitrate or mediate — or, yes, to litigate.

Legal outsourcing, interview with Dwight Golann, latest in International Dispute Negotiation podcast series

International Dispute Negotiation a great podcast seriesIf you’re interested in learning more about the resolution of international disputes or other topics that concern the practice of dispute resolution and negotiation abroad, there is no better resource than the International Dispute Negotiation (IDN) podcast series.

IDN is hosted by Michael McIlwrath, Senior Counsel, Litigation for GE Infrastructure – Oil & Gas. The two latest issues of this excellent series are #16, “How to Borrow a Mediator’s Powers” with ADR scholar Professor Dwight Golann from my alma mater Suffolk University Law School in Boston; and #17, “Offshore Litigation Work in India“, in which Mike pays a visit to Mumbai to explore this controversial method of reducing litigation costs in common law systems and talks to the founder of successful outsourcing firm Pangea3, and to one of its top managers.

Houston Police Department blog lauds mediation

Houston PD blogsI came across a post titled, “ADR Mediation: A Valuable Tool“, and found it irresistible for two reasons.

Reason 1: It describes an ADR program underway in Houston to provide opportunities for dialogue and improved relationships through mediation between members of the public and employees of the Houston Police Department.

Reason 2: I learned that the chief of police of a major U.S. city blogs. He was the one who posted the article.

Kudos to Houston for the mediation program and the blog.

Trust Matters at Blawg Review #150

Charles H. Green, a respected executive educator on trust-based relationships, and the author of the blog Trust Matters, plays charming (and, might I say, trustworthy) host to Blawg Review #150. A rotating blog carnival, Blawg Review each week presents the best in legal blogging.

Highlights from Blawg Review #150 include Orwell on ethos, Budweiser-themed haiku, a first-hand account of a harrowing five-day stay in the D.C. jail, and seven days’ worth of inspiration from some extraordinary blogs.