Today is Memorial Day here in the U.S. For those of you who are not familiar with American customs, on Memorial Day the U.S. honors those men and women who laid down their lives in performing military service for this country.

Memorial Day weekend is also the unofficial beginning of barbecue season. You would think that the start of the summer grilling season would represent a time for families and friends to come together and for differences and long-standing feuds to be set aside.

But that’s not the case in North Carolina, as ABC World News Tonight reports today. It seems that all-out war has broken out in North Carolina over what constitutes true North Carolina barbecue—vinegar- or tomato-based sauce, pork shoulder or whole hog. (North Carolina obviously takes its barbecue very seriously. We New Englanders can certainly identify—we experience the same kind of passion over the ingredients that go into real New England clam chowder.)

Seems we’re going to have to bring in that fellow from Deltona, Florida, who offered to mediate a land dispute between city and county officials with the help of some of his homemade barbecued pork ribs.

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